Dear Therapist: We Divorced My Dying Wife As Soon As She Was No More

After 5 years of being her caregiver, i possibly couldn’t keep the psychological or financial expenses alone any further.

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Dear Therapist,

I happened to be hitched to my spouse for three decades. In 2012 she ended up being clinically determined to have Huntington’s infection. It’s a hereditary deadly brain condition without any remedy or remedies. It gradually took her away mentally and actually. She ended up being 47 at that time.

For 5 years I became her caregiver that is sole her, dressing her, feeding her, etc. In 2017, i really could carry on no more and had to position her in a long-lasting care center. I happened to be burnt down. Soon after, we filed for divorce or separation as the price of her care had been bankrupting me. If she had been solitary her care ended up being covered. I’d no option.

Ever since then We have met another woman with whom i will be now in a relationship that is serious.

I’m 55 yrs old. My ex just isn’t effective at understanding cognitively, therefore she does not understand. My loved ones states they help me. My ex’s family members does not. We felt I needed seriously to proceed in life, but We nevertheless go to my ex daily and guarantee her requirements are met. My son is a grown-up pro who appears to be suffering my situation. The lady in my own life is very good and supports me personally completely in this, and additionally guarantees I retain in connection with my ex. Did i actually do right by moving forward? Continue reading Dear Therapist: We Divorced My Dying Wife As Soon As She Was No More